The Power of a
Have you ever had this happen to you?
You're looking good with your appearance. You've got the
hair, the makeup, the outfit - everything's pulled together. As
the day progresses, you find that you've become a people
magnet. Complete strangers come up to you and start talking
like you're old friends. Men go out of their way to hold the
door for you. And just when you start feeling really good about
your day, it happens: the crusty look.
You know what I'm talking about. When you least expect it
someone - usually a woman -- gives you such a dirty look that
if looks could kill, you'd be dead on the spot. It might even
be accompanied by a snide remark.
You instantly wonder what's wrong. Is your blouse too low?
Your skirt too high? Your clothes too tight? If you can
honestly say "No" to those questions (and remember: just
because you can "suck it in" enough to get it buttoned doesn't
mean it fits), then there's usually only one possible solution:
you look so good, she felt threatened. So, to get even, she
gave you a dirty look.
It's not. It's the power of image and appearance. And once
you learn to harness it, you can put it to work to get what
you want, whether it's the job of your dreams, the man of
your dreams, or the kind of respect you've always dreamed
about. Oh yeah -- and dirty looks from people with feel like
you're stealing their thunder.
Now that last one probably isn't a goal. But it will be a
by-product, so we'll address it momentarily.
Remember how I said when you look good, you become a "people
magnet?" It's because of something called the "attractiveness
factor." Studies have shown that even from the cradle, humans
are drawn to an aesthetically pleasing appearance. Fair or not,
attractive people tend to get preferential treatment all their
lives, from more attention in the classroom and in the job
market to a wider choice of mates. Small wonder then that most
of our celebrities tend to be attractive.
Now here's a secret: you DON'T have to be drop-dead gorgeous
to be considered attractive. You don't have to have a great
body, great hair, or even a classically pretty face. All you
need to do is package yourself attractively, and
you'll command plenty of attention.
Remember: people treat you how you treat yourself. If you
take the time to groom yourself appropriately and wear
flattering clothes, you're telling others that you're worth the
time and effort; that you're important and a force to be
reckoned with. And because you have confidence in yourself,
others will put their confidence in you - unless you give them
reason not to.
If, on the other hand, you dress sloppily or in clothes that
are too small, too big, or two decades out of style, you
communicate that you're out of touch or that you have low
self-esteem. Others will respond by ignoring or mistreating
you. And initially, they may do this even if you have more
money, more education, or more talent than they do.
Not fair? Of course it's not fair! But it's reality. If
you've never experienced this sort of treatment first hand,
just do some people-watching in a crowd sometime and draw your
own conclusions. Almost always, the most attractively-packaged
people will receive preferential treatment based on their
appearance. It's a fascinating social phenomenon.
And what about those dirty looks I mentioned earlier? You'll
get those from people who feel threatened by you in some way,
whether it's because you're younger, older, have a nicer
figure, have better hair, nicer jewelry, or whatever. Often,
it's because you've caught the eye of their guy or someone
they're interested in. Try to ignore them. You won't be able to
please everyone is this life, so don't wear yourself out
Instead, set your goals and costume yourself appropriately
to meet them. A polished image is a powerful tool to
have in your success arsenal, so don't be afraid to use it.
Even if you do get a few dirty looks sometimes.
Need more help
in polishing your appearance? Grab a copy
of Business Wear
Magic by author
and image consultant Diana Pemberton-Sikes
to discover how to increase your
income by dressing appropriately for your
line of work. You can find it online
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