She first came to my attention in January, 2014.
I'd never heard of her before and hadn't seen her movie. But by the end of the award season just two months later, Lupita Nyong'o had collected a slew of awards – including an Oscar – and had planted herself firmly on the Hollywood “A” List.
With her very first movie.
In a supporting role.
No years of toil. No “paying her dues” until she got her big break.
She walked in, did her job, and walked off with a career most actors would die for.
The Star Wars franchise. Miu Miu ads. The cover of Vogue.
How did she do it?
Great acting chops, of course.
But there's something else - rarely seen in Hollywood, let alone anywhere else – that instantly sets her apart from the crowd: she's the “Total Package.”
She has great skills and a great image.
Combined, they make her unstoppable.
Most people tend to think that image means how you dress.
But that's only part of it.
Image really consists of three elements: how you look, act, and speak.
If all three are awesome, the sky's the limit. If not, you won't get very far.
Sadly, that describes most people.
If you look around any crowd these days, you'd be hard pressed to find any one person with all three elements. They may look good or they may be polite or they may speak intelligently.
But to have all three?
That's because most people only focus on one or two elements – if any at all.
Dress in particular has taken a hit in the last 25 years as we become more and more casual. Fifty years ago, you weren't considered properly dressed without a hat and gloves. Today, people leave the house in their pajamas and think dressing up means “the good jeans.”
Manners and speech have become just as sloppy.
Want to get ahead?
Do the opposite.
Go old school and dress, act, and speak with purpose.
Not only will you stand out, you'll also leapfrog ahead of just about everyone else, because being the “Total Package” is about as rare as being a unicorn.
And unicorns always get special treatment.
Lupita Nyong'o is a unicorn. So is Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge.
So were Audrey Hepburn, Grace Kelly, and Jacqueline Kennedy.
Not surprisingly, all five have something in common: they were born into prominent families and/or had a good education. They understood the power of image and used it to skyrocket their careers.
But more that, they had a plan.
They determined exactly which clothing styles suited them best, and then they honed their manners and speech. If something wasn't “up to snuff,” they worked on it. Tirelessly.
Because they understood something so few do today: legacy.
A commitment to excellence that opens doors and creates opportunities.
The thing is, it's not all that hard to accomplish – once you know what to do.
All you need are a few instructions and a game plan, and you'll be astonished by how quickly things come together.
I know I was.
My name's Diana Pemberton, and I've been an image consultant for more than 20 years. My fashion story started decades ago when I was a teenager.
Now earlier I said that image consists of three elements: how you look, act, and speak.
By my 14th birthday, I'd only mastered how to speak well.
Because I read constantly.
I wasn't much of an athlete then nor was I very popular, so I'd travel the world through the pages of my books. It broadened my knowledge and sharpened my writing skills, which in turn improved my speaking skills. By the time I left grade school, I had the vocabulary of a college student.
Other than that, I was a complete mess.
Puberty hit me hard.
Acne, braces, an extra 25 pounds – pictures from that time are truly cringe-worthy.
So are the memories.
Because I wasn't treated very well in those days.
Overlooked. Ignored. Forgotten.
On the outside looking in.
When I happened to make the cheerleading squad at school, no one congratulated me. Instead, one of the popular girls who didn't make it demanded a recount, insisting it must have been rigged if I made it. Several people tried to get me to quit. They said “I didn't belong.”
Things weren't much better at home.
As the youngest of four, I had no credibility with my siblings.
Hand-me-downs. Leftovers. The middle seat in the car with the hump.
I never got first choice on anything. I only got the leftovers - what no one else wanted.
In time, that kind of treatment takes a toll on your self-esteem.
It certainly did on mine.
By the time I went to high school, I just assumed that was my lot in life. I had resigned myself to the “D” list – at the grand old age of 14.
Bu then, something happened.
It was the summer between my freshman and sophomore years in high school.
I was sitting around with my family after dinner one night, chatting, when I got up to put my dishes in the dishwasher. As I was standing by the sink, laughing, my older brother furrowed his brow, poked my flabby belly and said:
“Geez, Diana! If I didn't know better, I'd think you were pregnant.”
I just stared at him. I'd always been the skinny one, the one my mother used to say she'd have to wrap clothes around twice. To be called fat threw me for a loop.
So I did what any fourteen year old girl would do: I went to the bathroom and cried. For twenty minutes.
Then, I washed my face, took a deep breath, and turned sideways to look in the mirror.
I did look pregnant. Like I was about to give birth at any minute.
I resolved right then and there to do something about it. I was determined to prove my brother wrong.
That was mid-June.
By the time I went back to school in late August, those 25 pounds were gone.
So was the acne. So were my braces. So was the unflattering hair style I'd worn since 7th grade.
Then, magically, so was my “D” List status.
Which came as a complete surprise.
A funny thing happens when you improve your appearance: people start noticing you.
They smile. They hold open doors. They flirt.
I didn't know that.
I was so used to being overlooked and ignored that when I initially started getting attention, I'd look over my shoulder to see who they were talking to. It took a few months to get used to.
The difference in treatment was so dramatic, it was like flipping a switch.
Like going from the “D” list to the “B” list overnight.
I wasn't quite ready for the “A” list – that required a little more time and effort – but it was okay. For the first time in my life, I was on the inside, looking out.
People were asking my opinion. They listened to my answers. They were curious about me.
It was then I made a startling discovery:
People treat you how you treat yourself.
When you care enough to look your best, people notice. When you don't, they don't.
I was fortunate enough to learn that when I was a teenager.
Sadly, most people go their entire lives never learning it – and they've got the battle scars to prove it.
So what kind of life do you want to lead?
What does success look like to you?
A penthouse apartment? A cabin by the lake? Money in the bank? Surrounded by children? What?
Do how you look, act, and sound now reflect the image of how you look in your dreams?
For many, the answer is no.
Which means that getting from Point A to Point B just got a whole lot harder.
Aligning your image with your dreams “greases the chute,” so to speak, making it easier to achieve your goals.
Waiting to align them “when you get the money” or “when you lose weight” or “someday” is sabotage. Baby steps can lead to giant leaps in a short amount of time. But not doing anything leads nowhere.
Except to more of the same.
I once had a client with a good singing voice who grew up poor in a small southern town. Many felt her voice was her ticket to fame and fortune, so as soon as she graduated from high school and saved a little money, she headed to New York.
She was back in less than six months, broke and broken-hearted.
She may have been the “toast of the town” back home, but she was just a country bumpkin in New York. No one took her seriously.
So she came back home, gave up on that dream, settled into a clerical job with a local real estate agent, and spent the next 20 years working and only singing at church and for the occasional wedding.
I happened to meet her after she got her real estate license and her boss sent her to me to upgrade her image to work with high end clients in a nearby vacation town.
When I asked her what success looked like to her and whether she looked, acted, and sounded like the image in her dreams, she got mad.
“One has nothing to do with the other,” she insisted. “People should judge you by the work you do, not by how you look.”
I hear that a lot.
Unfortunately, it's not reality.
Studies on culture for the last 100 years – as well as writings dating back to Aristotle – show that attractive people have a distinct advantage over less attractive people. The better you look, act, and speak, the higher your income and status.
No, it's not fair.
But it IS reality, and it hasn't changed in thousands of years.
You can rail against it - like trying to divert a river - or you can use it to your advantage and ride the current downstream with remarkable ease.
The choice is yours.
I prefer the second, because it gets you to where you want to go faster.
The good news is, you don't have to look like a model to be considered attractive. You just have to create “the total package,” which anyone can do regardless of her age, shape, or size.
But my client wasn't convinced.
So I took the scientific route. I told her to try it my way for a week and see what happened.
I picked out a week's worth of clothes for her to wear and told her to record how she was treated as well as her house showing and closing rates. I told her I'd call her in a few weeks to check on her.
She increased her closing rate by 400%.
She went from selling two houses a month to two a week and quadrupled her income in less than a month.
Moreover, she was suddenly in demand as a singer. She'd performed at a wedding with her new-and-improved image, and was invited to perform at a club in that nearby vacation town with the high end clients. She made more singing at the club those two weeks than she had singing at weddings for the last five years.
Last I heard, she was performing frequently in musical theater throughout the region while selling real estate part time.
Her biggest regret?
That she hadn't worked with an image consultant before that long-ago ill-fated trip to New York. Her life could have followed a different trajectory had she known to “dress for success” back then.
You can't change the past.
But you can impact the future by how you dress today.
The good news is, it's not hard.
The great news is, change can happen very quickly, as it did for both me and my singing real estate client.
All you have to do is determine the image that will help you reach your goals the fastest, and then transform yourself into that person.
Create Your Ideal Image can help.
In Western Culture, we tend to think of the “ideal image” as something like this:
But it's not right for all industries and can even be detrimental in some.
So if you've ever chided yourself for NOT looking like this or wondered why you didn't hit the genetic lottery, STOP. Looking good isn't reserved for the tall, young, and famous. Any woman can look fabulous if she wants. All it takes is a plan.
Create Your Ideal Image gives you that plan.
Create Your Ideal Image is designed to get you thinking about your image in a way you never have before.
Most women rely on celebrities for style advice, according to a recent survey. I'll show you why that's a bad idea, and what to do instead.
We start with the "big picture" and work our way to the nitty-gritty details. By the time you're done, you'll not only know the image secrets that propelled women like Audrey Hepburn, Grace Kelly, and Jacqueline Kennedy to the height of fame, but how you can model them to create your own unforgettable image.
From Ancient Greece to mid-Century Argentina to how Rihanna dresses, I take you back in time and around the world to help you understand how to craft an image that turns heads, opens doors, and moves you to the front of the line.
Yes, this is pretty high-level stuff and definitely not for everyone.
But if you're ready to “take the bull by the horns” and use your image to help instead of hinder, I can help.
No more being overlooked and ignored. No more being passed over for promotions or perks. No more being "out of the running" for cool stuff and awesome opportunities.
Instead, you'll be the first choice every time.
What's it like to go from being a bit player to being the star?
Fun. Profitable. Confidence-building.
There's not a lot of mystery involved. Just a few simple steps that can transform your life.
It happened to me when I was a teenager with no money. It's happened for thousands of my readers, and it will happen for you, too.
Here's what some of my clients have to say about my methods:
Create Your Ideal Image is an online course that you can watch from your computer, tablet, or mobile phone.
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Well, if I met with you one-on-one to go over all of this, it would cost about $500. Even digitally delivered, it's still worth more than $200.
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If all Create Your Ideal Image did was get you a raise, would it be worth it?
If it allowed you to escape that feeling of being trapped – like you had no options - would that help with your peace of mind?
If you could suddenly get the attention and respect you deserve, would that make a difference in your life?
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For less than the cost of one of those unworn items sitting in your closet right now, doing you no good, you can have a wardrobe plan that actually makes a difference, now and for years to come.
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What does success look like to you?
How close are you to that image right now?
Because Create Your Ideal Image could be the first domino to help you get there fast. Once you understand the “big picture” and all that's required to turn your dreams into reality, it not that hard to topple the first domino, which is how you look. Because once you get the packaging right, life becomes so much easier.
*Walking into a room and having all heads snap your way
*All of your co-workers listening to what you have to say
*Finally getting the attention and respect you deserve
It's not a far-fetched dream.
It's a reality that's within your grasp, IF you chose to make it happen.
Create Your Ideal Image can help get you there.
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You've got dreams. Let me help you dress for them.
See you on the inside!